Our story about Abi and Yasmin started on Monday. It's based on the many dreadful stories about bullying that we hear on our Advice Line. The full story is featured here:
Monday
ABI: I'm Abi. I'm 14. I think I'm great. I'm a bully.
YAS: I'm Yasmin. I'm 14. I hate myself. I'm being bullied.
ABI: I used to be Yasmin's friend. I can't believe it - she's such a loser!
YAS: Abi used to be my friend. I don't know why she's turned on me. I don't know what I've done wrong.
ABI: My new friends are much cooler. Yas sucks up to the teachers. We hate her.
YAS: I want to do OK at school. But I'm so lonely. The others leave me out and call me names.
ABI: Yas is so weak. She cries at the smallest thing. How far can we push her?
YAS: I don't know how much more I can take. This has been going on for weeks now. They're threatening to really hurt me this week.
DAD: I'm Yas's dad. I'm worried about her. She's not been her normal self lately. When I ask, she says she's fine but I've heard her crying.
Tuesday
ABI: Had a row with Mum's boyfriend last night. I can't stand him. I'm so angry. Yas had better watch out!
YAS: Abi cornered me at break. Said she's going to get me. She emptied my bag and took my lunch money. The others just watched and laughed.
ABI: Took Yas's money at break. Me and the girls are so tough. We'll break her soon.
YAS: Couldn't focus in maths today. Abi's gang kept teasing me and whispering. Teacher just told me to ignore it. He doesn't get it.
ABI: Lunchtime was such a laugh! Yas has no friends. And now she's really scared because we threatened to follow her after school.
YAS: I'm really scared. Abi said she's coming for me. How do I stop this? No one understands.
ABI: Yas just won't fight back. We followed her after school. We surrounded her and I kicked her while someone filmed it on their phone.
YAS: Just got home. Abi's gang followed me and she kicked me. There were loads of them, shoving me around. Can't go back to school tomorrow.
ABI: I hate it at home. Mum has no time for me anymore. At least I've got the girls at school.
YAS: Just told Dad what happened today. He was shocked. He says I have to stand up to Abi though. I don't think I can.
DAD: Just found out what's been going on and I can't believe it. I hope the girls will sort it out themselves. I told Yas to tell her teacher.
Wednesday
ABI: Everyone heard about our fight with Yas. Now they all know how weak she is. What use is an 'A' in English now? She's such a swot.
YAS: Told Dad I was ill today but he said I must go to school. Felt sick on the way all because of Abi. What is going to happen today?
YAS: Everyone knows what happened last night. A teacher asked if I'm OK but Abi was watching so I couldn't say anything. No one to talk to.
DAD: Yas was really upset when she got home today. She said her teachers don't think its a problem. I was shocked. I need to do something.
DAD: Found ACE's website. Loads of info on there about bullying. Called their free advice line and the adviser has given me some suggestions.
ACE: Sanjeev called about his daughter's situation. There's lots he can do. He needs to talk to Yas and write down a log of each incident.
ACE: Then he needs to meet her teacher to discuss it. Our booklet 'Tackling Bullying' gives ideas on preparing.
ACE: All schools must have an Anti-Bullying Policy which he should ask to see.
YAS: Dad wants to meet my teacher. I'm scared it will make things worse.
Thursday
ABI: Yas's dad came to school with her today. Guess she's pretty scared. What a baby - can't even fight her own battles.
YAS: Dad is meeting with the Head of Year today. I was so embarrassed & I don't see how it will help. Abi teased me about it.
DAD: On ACE's advice, I'm seeing Yas's teacher. Hope he takes it seriously. Have the incident log & a list of questions that ACE suggested.
ACE: Often schools act quickly to stop bullying. But sometimes parents feel teachers don't listen fully. It's OK to ask questions!
DAD: The Head of Year wasn't that concerned at first. He said 'Girls will be girls' & that they'll probably be friends again soon.
DAD: When I told him about the filmed fight he said that was serious. We spoke about what the school can do.
ACE: The school could ask Abi to apologise to Yas. They could move her to another class & keep her in at breaks.
DAD: I want the bullying to stop & I want Yas to feel better. She has lost her confidence lately.
ACE: There are organisations Yasmin can talk to about her experiences. They will support her and help her get over the upset.
Friday
ABI: I've been told to apologise to Yas. The Head of Year wants me to talk about how I'm feeling.
YAS: Abi seems really quiet today. Dad said the meeting went well & the school is going to help. I hope things get better.
DAD: Because of ACE's advice, I knew to ask the right questions. I saw the Anti-Bullying Policy & the teacher has agreed to take action.
ABI: I've been told that if things don't improve, I could face a Fixed Period Exclusion. I'm being moved to a different class.
YAS: Abi is moving classes. I'm so relieved. I'm going to keep out of her way.
DAD: I'm so glad ACE could help. I felt confident about the options. I will phone them back if things don't get better.
ACE: Schools can do lots to tackle bullying. It can be a theme in assemblies, drama & art projects. Get pupils talking about it!
ACE: Schools can give pupils a bullying box where they can secretly report bullying. Older pupils can be mentors.
ACE: Bullying is serious. It can have long-term effects on the bully and the victim. Schools & parents need to be vigilant. Dont suffer in silence!
If you or your child are being affected by bullying, then download our advice here or call our Advice Line on 0808 800 5793.